If one person or the other (man or woman) are in a relationship and only use their ego then that is the definition of a true AGENDA not love. Some people have zero bedside manner. Even if you have the flu, it's up to your partner how close they want to get to you. He came home from work at 9pm and I said I was throwing up and had terrible stomach cramps etc. I know my friends ahave been instrumental in plugging that gap for me. I said no. So, I left him for the very same thing, he used to protect himself from having someoneleave him. Of course, the more the therapist learned, the more it just reinforced what he already knew. He got mad at me because I went to grab the phone charger in the wall and didn't see it was connected to his phone (I needed to have a phone with me if I had to drive myself to the hospital in the middle of the night), he snapped at me that I am always in pain and should rent a hotel room in the hospital, etc, etc, and threw a different charger at me. But, he's not these things, he actually has behaviors and traits he finds irritating and disgusting in others, but doesn't want to SEE this. Submitted by vabeachgal on Sun, 04/16/2017 - 10:08. I guess its just a character flaw of his! I always wished I had the guts to leave him but the codependencykept me there. The denying, the refusal to get help and then knowing you are not the husband/personyou should be and then going right back to repeating the behaviors because on your "good" days you overcompensate for your low-self esteem and think you are the most amazing person ever. (And he sees this as a good thing)half done, with walls half painted. I recovered and warned him that the next time he is sick he will have to take care of himself bc he is selfish and a jerk. Some people wait until the water is visibly murky before performing maintenance on the tank. Ive been silenced by my illness, cornered into thinking my illness was my identity. Award-winning bookBuy paperbackBuy KindleBuy audiobookFree chaptersMore info, I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. Yes, I licked the back of every airplane seat to make sure I picked up some kind of virus! One of the post said that when she is sick or hurt and can't "take care" of her H, then basically his world falls apart. I couldn't even keep them down or even water it was so bad and my mom called the Doc back and he said if I couldn't keep the water or pills down to take me into the emergency room? It's not just the ADHD, but he won't go get a full evaluation. He was so sick he couldn't even think well enough to do his homework. Or pulled a muscle in my back. He didn't. Do you notice periods of lucidity between the bouts of rage? Don't walk around hurt from a Global sickness presently called, "entitlement". Im worried and curious what to look for. I can see how the advocated plan/tricks might work to create connection. And my mother ( the other one with ADHD who I got it from? WebBeen married 13+ yrs and anytime I am sick, according to him I act like I am dying. Once again I get "That's great! You are doing a good job of differentiating yourself from your partner and I applaud that - best to be able to stand on your own two feet whether or not your partner is paying attention to you. Sign #10: Not protective over you at all. Submitted by dedelight4 on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 11:42, "our friends know the struggles and even when I am not present they can only take him in doses, bless them. Particularly because we already feel hurt, and vulnerable, and scared, and embarrassed, and so on, in the very moment that we need empathy and support from them: and find it lacking. They ruin too many peoples lives. Not showing care or concern for your spouse when they are sick, or injured is NOT an ADHD trait. So I don't ask for anything beyond desperate needs. Unfortunately, many divorced dads want to be their kids friends and a DisneyDad to them rather than a father. My mom used to go hands on care for me when I get sick growing up. I was trying to do something simple. Your partner sounds as if he's not good at transitions (i.e. Not doing anything about it will make you resentful. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 14:07. Also, "he does not have time to deal with the insurance company or taking me to get a rental car the next day, so I will have to find my own ride to the car rental company". in Child and Adolescent Development and then an M.A. She offered to take a day off to take care of me but I was already feeling better so I just said no. Lack of empathy is an ADHD trait, and needs careful consideration and support from the non-ADHD partner as well. The only family Im in contact with is my 91-year-old mother who lives an hour away. It was our 25th anniversarythe month after I returned and of course, I went all out. My "H" is 100% total Narcissistic! But, he can't get past the victim hood yet.). WebNo, that's not normal in a loving marriage. A few weeks ago, he reiterated (I think he's said this once before) why nothing worked: while he professed to wanting a relationship with me, he actually is unable to form personal connections. Just the feeling at the moment. Your husband is a narcissist, sorry to say. I bet if I got cancer he'd go "Great! Yeah, he's not that thoughtful. I agree his kids should come first. But that was a lot of days for him to be unable to make any time for you. My hu My husband's reaction? When I'm sick, yes. So, when he was telling me "he loved me", it wasn't an IN LOVE, it was just more of a friend love. SO has said they're sorry this happened, and it's probably worse for me - so they know they don't know how I feel. You can find even more stories on our Home page. Well, yes, I have an Autoimmune condition that causes it. Have been married for 4years now. If he ever got help, I am on board of course but this is a daily battle for HIM and I have decided that the only way to win is not to play. Maybe I'm just expecting a bit too much. It was your plan all along to leave me on my own, wasn't it?!". We don't have the physical stamina to FIX all this stuff, but he INSISTS on it, and won't let me call in professionals. Submitted by c ur self on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 14:17, ( A true and internal lack of gratitude for his own life that God has granted him, and gratitude for the lives that have been entrusted TO him, which is an honor and which is humbling for the soul who can SEE this fact. "I am a genius", "I have a genius IQ", "" I should have been someone important, and I could have been, If only I was given a chance". I often try to put myself in his shoes and think "God I am so happy I am not like that". Sign #12: He Doesnt Pay For Anything. And vice versa if she's the one down ill. Can't really prepare good food when you're nauseous and fked up all over. We already talked and we good now. I know some have stated this, others have said the opposite. I do not think I will see a lasting change because myspousewith ADD is alwaysout for himself. When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. Otherwise I think you need to stop acting like a child when sick. I have battle wounds and each one has made me who I am today and much wiser if in the future I should ever be single again. Submitted by The Bride (not verified) on Mon, 07/13/2020 - 04:33. He lovesfamily when they are joking with him, but not if they need him. Best of Luck to you all and I look forward to reading your story. In the letter I explained that he needed to get help and I was running to save myself. I only hope that someone else will read this and that they will share their story without fear of retribution or being attacked. Even says just because I am sick, he is not going to pet me. Talking to a friend may be helpful, but you might also consider discussing your feelings with a mental health professional. Yeah, I remember when she was sick and I was doing everything for her as I just let her rest. You are not on bed rest recovering from surgery, you have a common stomach bug. Like I was some animal in the Zooand he was just coming to see the specimen out of curiosity. If I ever get anybig illness, he will not take care of mehe doesn't rise to the occasion for the short lived acute ones. But that was a lot of days for him to be unable to make any time for you. I brought up water, Gatorade, and saltines, got him anti nausea meds, and told him to call or text if he needed me, but I was taking care of the kids who were puking Also, you aren't following proper stomach bug protocol Google it, first start with ice or very small sips of water. explicit permission. Just gotta get used to it! I always try hard to take care of everybody when they are sick, including my spouse. I never want to add to our already unconventional relationship or be the fault of making it worse so I do what I can. Your book sits on my husband's night stand. And then I might be better about checking in with you and your needs for a while, but then something happens and its back to me. No, that's not normal in a loving marriage. I am, however, hesitant, super hesitant, to engage when 90 percent of what comes out of his mouth is a lie. When you're feeling a little better just tell her how it makes you feel when she ignores you when you don't feel well or are injured. WebIm worried about my chest pain. in Psychology. and my child will throw up or have a fever. Until you are burnt out, and I finally notice something is wrong. After 2 years of therapy for myself, I am in a better place. Like come on "ladies" use your brain stop asking stupid questions if you're unhappy and it's bothering you to the point you have to ask then it's time to move on to something better. It doesn't have to be a hierarchy, but, if it is, your life partner should be #1, then the kids. Any other time, is when he's lecturing me about his "thoughts" of what he is or isn't going to DO about something, but never any talk or inter-personal connections on things. ", Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 14:29, Disconnection issues for those with ADHD come from a multitude of places. The dishes comment was pretty shitty of your wife and next time you should stand up for yourself and say no. he gets very angry. If that had been me standing there coming to see me after all of that? Confirmed. 5 signs of an unsupportive husband during pregnancy. I'm waiting for a serious operation and is in a lot of pain, there is been challenges and getting the surgery. His brother was paranoid-schizophrenic, diagnosed at 18 and died a few years ago from drug addiction. Hinting at your desires will most likely push her further away. He despises sickness- like it is a form of weakness or something. I'm not sure about what's being discussed about men. I could have written pages and pages in response. You know where I keep my emergency information, when to call 911. My In-laws and husband were there, along with our daughter. Lol. That's great! It was a costly move but I just was happy he was getting help. (sorry, another vent) .. So,when it comes to love, what to do, and where to go from here. (he can't) He pinches pennies, in trying to fix something that he's usually broken himself, but then it ends up costing us double or triple in do-overs. I'm taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, making meals. #1. If you need help, I will cook dinner". The only thing he has genuinely shared from his therapy was the conclusion that he lies to everyone all the time. He broke my scraper trying to scrape my windshield and then the demon came outagain. He is Extremely self centered, has No Empathy or Sympathy for anyone except himself. What? We don't have kids yet. There's definitely a disconnect. Submitted by Exhaustedlady87 (not verified) on Fri, 11/15/2019 - 16:54. Now when Im sick I prefer to be left alone. OP, assuming you guys have been married for a long time, possibly for more than five years and your work is what gets u sick and hurt regularly, I'm guessing she was not always like this. Its me, me and my illness, that dominate our life. Kids pick up on stuff they're not ****ed. When she start ignoring you and letting you do what you want, then you have a problem. Being in a constantly defensive state (as are the chronic blamers of the world) means ADHD adults can become really good at detachingand awful at attaching. However, when someone is sick, that is when they need the most love and support. Not my H. He'd blow a gasket and likely also yell at me for ruining his life. The world should recognize his presence and he should be treated with utmost respect while giving none in returnto ANYONE! I would like to see him live with this and all the pain and cognitive dysfunction it causes. I wasn't even allowed to adjust my own pillows. Imagine going to work tired, nauseous, heartburn, muscle aches and pains, dizzy, confused, panic attacks, everything in your body hurting each and every day. But I believe I am blessed with many friends. Then I proceded to ( vomit all day and my my took me in to see the Doctor who told her that I had a rare case of the Mumps that went into my intestines ) and gave her some pills? Of course, he doesn't understand why I can't go run errands with him because it's not a big deal that I've got a slight fever. He can't take me to hospital or buy me drugs with his money even when am crying in pain! You don't want to marry a man with kids, trust me. Yeap. Was she sick recently and you didn't pay attention? I am better than begging and I am tired of it. Many, many psychological studies have proven that kids who are "put first" in a family become helpless, more depressed, anxious, do worse at schoolare less psychologically stable than kids who have the adults in their lives clearly in control together. After all, when he is around me he can make me miserable by extension of his bad mood. "He worked all week ~ he's Tired and Deserves to Rest"!!! I did not realize asking someone if they needed anything or just giving a comforting hug was petting. Empathy, love, and Gatorade are amazing to have, but the rest is all you. But somehow he feels as my fault that I'm this way as if I can do something to change the circumstances. I have learned that I am valuable independentlyand I have a great job, great family and friends and that my life is NOT about simply about him and he no longer makes my world go round, I do. I mis calculated the drop, my crutches went out from under me, and I fell, landing flat on my back on thecement patio, hard. Love, to me, is caring about the welfare of something and wanting to put in the effort and time and attention for it to grow and survive. I agree his kids should come first. Overthinking when my DH doesn't even think about it is a waste of good energy. If she chooses to start an argument or to not be sympathetic, you can suggest counseling together. Lately he finds more reasons than not to leave the house to help someone else anybody else. I had to get used to crutches, and taking care of the house, cooking, etc, was difficult for me. That lasted about 6 months for us and about 2 years for me to get over. (Statements I've heard dozens of times, and heard again this week). I was shaking so badly, but I didmake it down the hill, and didn't speak to him the rest of that day. not good. We can't FIX some of this stuff on our own. Press J to jump to the feed. You may want to reflect on your needs when you are sick as an adult. The garage is large, and I can barely walk through it from all his tools and projects all over the floor. The codependent wife moved back without his help and then he said he wasn't going back to therapy after one session. Hed get one color half done, then start on a new color somewhere else. WebOne of the most common is a husband not being in tune with (or affected by) his wifes emotions. Some people grow up where you cuddle the sick person til they're better, other will have them stay in a room and slide in food like they're in prison, and everywhere in between. It means you're a dumb ass push over that loves acting like a victim. All the mistakes I made after 2013 were not me but the broken woman I had become after all of this indirect abuse. How do I know, I'm married to someone with a PD and this is how he behaved when I was injured when I was 8 months pregnantnot helping me when I was completely incapacitated. The unfinished projects and dreams. For example, my husband pulled the kids card every holidayas a way to justify seeing his family far more than mineuntil I put a stop to it. (not a good sign). Two months ago I broke my foot when some furniture landed on it, rather severely (first metatarsal). Run!!! You don't want to marry a man with kids, trust me. All this crap about his kids "coming first" is just thatcrap. When you marry, the two Yes, the victim mentality and what you said is so true. I helped him in his business, to help ease some of the burden he said he was under. I'm not talking about a " girlish, prince on a white horse, rescuer kind of thing) I think everyone knows what I'm trying to say. This marriage has changed me, first for the worst and now finally for the better. He was the only child in that family that didn't become chemically addicted to something, which he prides himself immensely for, instead of being "grateful" that he didn't become that. He made me pay that year for leaving. I start my day with positive thoughts of not retaliating, not overthinking, and not trying to change what I can't control. This is not ok. My husband works hard and takes good care of me and our big family. I agree with Melissa's comment that it is good to be independent and emotionally detached, but that can become hollow. a top book that therapists suggest all couples should read, Tell me about it..My husband lacks sympathy for me and the kids, His entertainment comes before anything else, They take as much as they can for as long as we allow it, Yes Dear Dede sadly we do know of that you speak:), https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/empathy-and-adhd. Yeah, he's not that thoughtful. Any time I am not at 100% to run the household, restock the coffee, cook meals, put the kids to bed, do the laundry, etc. Sometimes, he can be vindictive in a passive way, like after I left him for that one month. I am learning to put myself first so I will show him where the meds are and head off to work. A well spouses support and encouragement can help a partner stay on track, but this new role can also trigger frustration on both sides. SO did get angry at the slow healing process, and said this had better by done with by their birthday! So many of the situations seem so crazily familiar. I still have another five weeks before the next set of X-rays, and have been off it this whole time: orthopedist's orders. That is when he finally paid attention to me and accepted that I was sick. If I'm sick or hurt (e.g. Lets look at the options: 1. Yes, I agree, and am in the same place. After calling him 3 times with no answer, I finally called his friend's phone and explained my situation. Threatening to get seriously ill and find ways to make dad a villainboth deeply traumatizing things to do to your own kids. Stop selling your soul for sex, money or a sense of security. But I havent been acting like it. I like the don't be upset if I pull a you on you comment. I gotvery sick from what I ate. But, again, that is in the "now", but what about the "not-now"? Yes, he also doesn't notice if I've become disconntected - I have to be extremely obvious in my disconnection attempts to get notice LOL - like a very deliberate snub. I have made myself the central focus in our relationship. We already talked last night and we good now. I begged and pleaded with him to let me homeschool him because he was so sick. You also don't have a role model to teach or even show you HOW to connect. I don't think it's right, but I think it's true. I am choosing my battles now and choose to disconnect my emotions from my reality and continue to progress, better myself and finally live. Maybe she doesnt even realize shes doing it. But I text him and found out his wife was bipolar and in and out of hospitals. Press J to jump to the feed. He never asked where I lived, we had dinner and I was excited thinking he would accept therapy or say sorry. He went to the session and was diagnosed with PTSD and ADHD. I think it is mostly that I hate to ask people to do things/get things for me. He sees the painted parts and not the unpainted parts, because to him this is a lot of work. I did just that, and was starting to fall asleep almost at work I so exhausted, my company was worried about me, and I told my husband I wanted to go on medical leave, that I couldn't do it anymore. There's lots of reasons he may have decided to not come over, and 99% of them aren't the selfish stuff you're thinking of. An epiphany. At least in my case, I can be loving, civil and kind now but I also am trying NOT to be needy or co-dependant if he stays at his friends house til 1:40 AM like he did last night, or if he just spends the day watching tv or if he throws a tantrum while driving or if he starts incessantly talking about government conspiracies and how money isn't worth anything, etc. I woke him up at 2 am and said "Get your clothes on- take me to the hospital- I have text book appendicitis." I am still me; I am unchanged to you. I think that it's true. My husband didn't help me with anything around the house. Some otc antacids helped. I really would like some aspirin now and not in 5 hours! When I was3 months pregnant, wetook a trip to Mexico. I hear you, I cant count the number of times my husband made it very clear that myillness was a hughinconvenience for him there was no thought to how it made me feel. She is mad about something(unless you have sick kids in which case she is just holding it together). If you talk about how he's not connecting with you and that's disappointing to you, the issue is HIM. I wish you the best. Imagine that. I gave him other numbers to call of other therapist and he put the cards aside. The one hoarding in the place you are trying to sell? WebIs it normal for a husband to not take care of his wife when she falls sick? Mistake on my part expecting a bit too much help from my partner. You dont care about my illness. Its an open concept house and he's painted the walls all different colors, but again, half done. Recallingthe time I told him I was really sick in the morning before swim workout and he told me I had to go anyway? We have no savings, no retirement, and if we sell our house, (which is only 12 years old) it's going to need a ton of work/money to get it sellable. I have no compassion in my heart for this and I have no means to find it or excuse this as anything more than totally Fucked Up Shit!!! Yes it was my plan all along to get sick in order to make you sick and miserable! But I'm still keeping out of the way and limiting the inconvenience. NOTHING HELPED. Maybe I was expecting something like that. Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to give me a kiss and I tell him that he shouldn't kiss me because I'm getting a scratchy throat and most likely a cold and his response isn't one of sympathy, instead it's "Greeeeeeat! She used to tell me, (when speaking of my husband), "I liked him, he never BOTHERED ME", and would praise him for leaving her alone, unlike her other children who " needed" her, as children DO. I understand what you mean. My husband believes he's Mr. Fix-It, and can fix anything. I shouldn't have to and I take very good care of myself after 27 years and a complete role reversal. Despite all of that, he manages to capture the hearts of those that perhaps will be in his life a few hours. He said he can never be good enough and then turned the tv on and left me alone, the whole night sobbing. It may make it more difficult to resolve differences or conflicts and the same Dont gauge this for the rest of your marriage. Whichever it is, I wasted most of my life trying to make something work that couldn't. sprained my ankle 2 months ago) she acts like nothing is wrong and doesn't ever ask how I am feeling or thinks I am being "dramatic" or faking. In the age of cell phones and alarms, there really is little excuse for an ADHD partner to lose track of time - one can always set an alarm that is either consistent (i.e. He wrote me a letter saying how he fell in love in college, and she left him, and he didn't want to feel "that hurt" again, so he basically shut "that part" of himself down, so that he wouldn't FEEL that. That put yourself in these situations and then wonder why things happen to you. We want to hear your story. I was still in therapy and my therapist, who is a mutual friend and took me on pro-bono, helped me so much to rebuild my esteem, stop being co-dependent. Whenever he's sick I ask if I can go get anything from the store for him or do anything for him. A perfect opportunity to "prove" himself right ~ WRONG! Theyve been together for 15 Yes my H also has ADHD, but it's not ADHD that causes his horrible behaviors, particularly when I'm sick/injured. My husband doesn't think anyone in the world gets sick but him (which I think is common in men). Very hard to comprehend and maybe that means we are ok.It is illogical and very sad to live with like that from both sides. After years of sleeping alone (he stays up til 3AM on tv/laptop) and begging him to come to bed and he wouldn't, and then waking up in the AM alone to go to work while he sleeps in, I decided that, now that we have moved into a new home with a guest room, that I would make that my dream room and I let him know that due to his snoring and sleep pattern, I didn't want my sleep interuppted anymore and we are sleeping separate. So, does he want me around because he's afraid he's dying? I need to see if Iam wrong about this. Whenever I am sick, all I get from my husband is sorry. Why? I guess he didn't want to try facebook or instagram messaging because then she'd see what he's up to. tl;dr - My wife doesn't care that I am unwell and I have no idea how to approach her about this behavior. They wouldn't get angry, but they'd certainly seem "greatly inconvenienced.". Second, gently encourage him to connect. I told her that as long as I took it slow, I would be OK. My husband didn't offer to help, he just stood there, and I could hear the wheels turning in his head. (We do imitate our parents). Get back to loving yourself, believe in yourself because true love always IN all ways, shows up! Thankfully, our two children were happy to help me. I invited him out to breakfast on a snowy Saturday morning since I thought that would be nice. Unreal. :) Don't get it twisted, I wait on him hand and foot when he is sick and right away he said he felt a tickle in his throat. When you find out your spouse is seriously ill, its natural to feel overwhelmed by fear and confusion. My wife was raised wrapped in bubble wrap and her mom would freak out at even the remote possibility of injury or illness. He is so sick and depressed. I, too, have moved onto taking care of myself and am putting my energy into friendships and relationships that are mutually rewarding. BTW, when ourkids are sick he is mean and heartless. Fortunately, theres a Many people with PDs also have ADHD, but it's not the ADHD that is causing the behaviors described in this thread. The entitlements and abrasive treatment of others. I occasionally get teary about it, my feelings were so hurt. Well, this time, I was calm, I got out of the car and changed my mind but he told me to get back in. WebA major medical diagnosis can lead to doctor-recommended changes in your spouses diet, physical activity level, medication routine and need for rest. 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